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It may start off innocently enough. Your partner may jokingly tell you to "shut up" after you express a different opinion from theirs or make subtle comments about how they dislike your friends. These are small things that may not seem like red flags. But according to experts, it's still important to take notice. If your relationship is starting to feel off, these may be s your partner is becoming emotionally dominant over you. More often than not, a person who is emotionally dominating has deeply-rooted insecurities and issues surrounding control.
As psychotherapist Emily Roberts MA, LPC , tells Bustle, they're often quick-tempered, lack regard for your time and emotions, and often blame others for their feelings and problems. It means they care about them and are attempting to control your decision making or manipulate you.
It's unhealthy and emotionally abusive. Unlike physical abuse, emotional abuse isn't always as easy to spot. So here's how you can tell if your partner is becoming emotionally dominant over you, according to expert. If you feel like you're not "allowed" to state your opinion or talk about certain topics that your partner doesn't like, these could be warning s of someone attempting to emotionally dominate you.
When someone emotionally invalidates you, they basically tell you that you don't actually feel the way you do. For instance, they might say, " You're so sensitive. Get over it " or "Stop being so dramatic. Again, it's all about making you feel "wrong" for feeling the way you do.
When you're being emotionally dominated, there may be "clear non-verbal cues" that have been developed within the relationship. For instance, you may receive a subtle glare from your partner that means, stop talking and keep it to yourself. Abusers commonly use isolation as a way to keep their victims dependent on them. When you're with an emotionally dominant partner, one of the most powerful ways for them to maintain control is to limit your exposure to friends.
So they're likely to criticize your choice of friends until you start seeing your friends in a negative light. If your partner has a habit of one-upping you or correcting you during conversations, this may be a of your partner trying to emotionally dominate you. For instance, you may come from home work and say, "I'm super exhausted. Fran Walfish , relationship psychotherapist and author, tells Bustle, "This keeps the abuser on top and the victim in a one-down position. Some people may act unhappy until their partner "guesses" what they want.
They may use lines like, "If you actually knew me or loved me, you'd know what I want. Walfish, this controlling behavior locks the other partner out and raises feelings of anxiety and failure for not "knowing. People who emotionally dominate others usually lack ability for their actions. They're never at fault. According to Roberts, they often blame others for their feelings and problems. Since you're the closest person to them, they'll place blame on you and claim it was "justified" based on something you did. Just to make it perfectly clear, emotional dominance is emotional abuse.
No one who truly loves and respects you will make you feel inferior. If you feel like your partner is becoming emotionally dominant over you, it may be time to seek help from loved ones or a therapist in exiting the relationship. By Kristine Fellizar.
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